If you haven’t heard of the cervical orgasm, you’re not alone. “Cervical orgasms are lesser-known than clitoris or G-spot orgasms because they’re not as common—or not as commonly recognized,” says Jessica O’Reilly, Ph.D., author of The New Sex Bible. While there’s no scientific data on how many women can reach the holy grail of orgasm via their cervices, what’s the harm in seeing if you’re one of them? Here’s what you need to know before going on this scavenger hunt to pleasure town.
However, there’s still a chance that no matter how turned on you are, cervical contact is more “ouch” than “oooh” for your body. Just as some of us love a good foot rub while others can’t stand having their feet touched, cervical stimulation varies woman to woman, says O’Reilly. In short, experimentation is all good, but don’t get so set on having a cervical orgasm that you hurt yourself. Keep the focus on having fun while trying something new.
Time it Just Right
With that orgasmic disclaimer in place, here’s how to give it a shot: First, consider your cycle. A few days before Aunt Flow’s visit, your cervix might be more sensitive to the touch, and when you’re menstruating your cervix is lower, which makes it easier to reach. Plus, O’Reilly finds that some women are more likely to have cervical orgasms during ovulation, or about two weeks before their periods arrive. So if having your cervix touched feels iffy but you’re still curious, try it during a different time of the month to see if anything changes.
No matter how ready you are to get to the good stuff, be sure to start slowly, says O’Reilly. She recommends going about your regular routine and waiting until you’re about 80 percent of the way to an orgasm before adding in some deep penetration that reaches the cervix. The only thing you have to change at that point is making sure whatever tool you’re using, whether it’s fingers, a penis, or a sex toy, touches the cervix with each thrust. If you respond well to G-spot stimulation, consider incorporating that kind of arousal, as well, says O’Reilly. May we suggest trying this position for maximum G-spot pleasure?
Troubleshooting Your Other C-Spot
While experimenting, you might find that you like the feeling of something touching your cervix, but you don’t love the poking sensation, says O’Reilly. In that instance, she recommends using lube, like Astroglide’s Sensitive Skin Gel, since the extra slipperiness may minimize that weird feeling.
Strike Cervical Gold
Though it can be hard to distinguish between different types of orgasms, O’Reilly has heard women describe cervical ones as feeling especially full-bodied, like an “uncontrollable rush of pleasure between the belly button and the vagina” and like a second, more powerful sensation after a clitoral orgasm. If you wind up having one, congratulations on reaching a personal sex milestone! And if you don’t, remember that figuring out what does—or doesn’t— do it for you is just as worthy of celebration.